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Dr Ruth aimed to shake America out of its puritan ways

The psycho-sexual therapist and media star died on July 12th, aged 96

Doctor Ruth Westheimer in 1990
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Not many people like to boast how short they are, but Ruth Westheimer did. She was all of four foot seven or, in rough metric, a metre and a half. To reach the shelf of the cabinet in her parents’ bedroom where they kept a book all about sex, with a juicy chapter called “The Ideal Marriage”, she had to climb on a chair. When she went to lectures in psychology at the Sorbonne as a young woman, she had to find a strong, handsome guy who could pop her up on a window sill to see the teacher. Her third husband, Fred, first appealed to her because he was short too, as well as good at skiing. On late-night talk shows, when she took a chair beside the host to lay a confiding hand on his arm and chat about genitalia, her little feet swung inches above the ground.

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